We live in a great big world, friends. One full of scary things, scary people, and the ruler of darkness ostensibly heading up the whole party. How do we not lose hope and fear incessantly for the lives of our loved ones (our BABIES) in this fearful place? Is there such a magical hamlet as fearless parenting?
I remember having ridiculous dreams when our firstborn was brand new about someone breaking in and stealing him…ok, I still have those dreams. When he’s not with me, I fight fearing for his safety incessantly.
Is there freedom from this? How can we, as loving parents, find relief from the fear of something awful happening to our child, especially when awful things happen to children all the time? Isn’t there good reason to fear? I’m certainly not going to tell you that I’ve mastered this stronghold, but I do have a few tricks up my sleeve to do some serious battle.
Don’t Feel Bad About Triple-Checking
When it comes to safety, I tend to be a tad paranoid. We’re still in the early stages of raising our firstborn, so I may loosen up, but unless those scary dreams dissipate, man, I’m gonna be checking that seat belt harness three times and cutting those grapes in half. At least in half. And I’m not going to feel bad about it either.
Crazy freak accidents do in fact happen, and it makes no sense to take senseless chances.
You Can’t Control Everything
The former being said, there are things that are out of my hands. I can do everything in my power to keep my babe safe and disaster can still strike. So control the things that you can, and don’t fret over all of the things that you can’t. Because there will always be variables in life outside of your sphere of influence.
Don’t Underestimate the Power of a Praying Parent
For real. Lift up your babies before the throne. Frequently. As much as it seems like He leaves this world to its own devices, God cares for you. He deeply loves your children. Tap into the power of prayer and give Him the reins to your children’s well-being.
Remember, He loves them even more than you do, as impossible as that seems.
Re-Align Your Perspective
Here’s what I’m suggesting: When your eternity is grounded and you come to realize that this life here is a vapor in comparison to the next, your vision shifts. You realize that life is so much bigger than this tiny existence we’re living.
Fear becomes unnecessary. What is there to be afraid of when the God of the universe holds you in His hands? Why should you live in shackles when you can be free? You get what I’m saying here? I hope so. This is earth-shattering, life-changing stuff. When you realize that this breath of a life we live here pales in comparison to the glory of the next, your vision shifts. A heavenly perspective is gained and you come to grips with the fact that you really weren’t given a spirit of fear.
Although we don’t need to fear and we can’t control everything, we’re still the people God chose to parent our littles.
Terrifying prospect, I know.
But while they’re here with us, we have got to be vigilant you guys. Don’t make assumptions about social media or about your child’s character. That’s a tough one, I know, but our little angelic cherubs are sinners just like us and should only be trusted to a point. Obviously, I’m speaking to parents of older children in this case, but the tiny ones will be there soon!
*cue ugly cry*
Until they can begin looking out for themselves, we need to be hyper-aware of the goings-on around our kids. Things happen so quickly and we have very little precedent of how to raise kids in the digital age. If we’re being vigilant and prayerful, we get that extra boost of confidence knowing we’re doing all that we can to keep out the bad guys.
I hardly think this one needs saying because I’m sure you already do this. You are here reading this, after all.
Make Your Kids Appropriately Aware
Now I’m not suggesting you place the idea in your kids’ heads that there’s a boogeyman out to get them. Kids need to be kids and have the freedom to live without fear too!
However, if they’re modestly aware of why they need to stay near you at the grocery store or at the fair or in the parking lot, they’ll have a reason to do so.
Children aren’t daft. Oftentimes if there’s a rule without a reason, it becomes more like a foggy guideline. Apply this as you best see fit for your family, but it’s important to communicate with our kids. Give them the mental responsibility so that they can turn it into a physical one.
You needn’t live in fear, dear fellow parent warrior. Raising human beings holds a lot of weight, but you’re the perfect one for the job. I’m sure of it.