You know the drill. It comes around every year: your spouse’s birthday. Whether you’ve been married 2 years or 52, you know it’s vital to encourage, respect, and love your betrothed. It’s the acting on that knowledge that gets us all emotionally tangled up. They forgot my birthday. He doesn’t need cake anyway. She says she doesn’t care about birthdays. I have to make sure the children are clothed. Do we even own candles? I’m going to share my sage wisdom with you and provide 7 outstanding reasons to celebrate your spouse. They deserve it. You deserve it. Your kids deserve it.
If nothing else, you’ll get cake or ice cream and if the stars align perfectly, BOTH. Hallelujah.
Everyone Loves Being Appreciated
No matter what your lady or man has said to you about not making a big deal about their birthday, it’s only human to love being appreciated. Appreciation doesn’t have to be extravagant—it can be as simple as making a special meal, or putting down your phone for a few hours to be with them (you can handle the separation, I promise! 😉 ). I guarantee it will put a smile in their soul and sunshine in your relationship.
You guys ever made homemade fudge before? Divine. Divine. I wanted to eat it with a spoon out of the pot. Ice cream birthday dessert, here we come! Nothing says, “I appreciate you, babe” like some homemade fudge over ice cream.
It’s a Great Way to Break up the Mundane
Routines, as comforting as they are, wear on anyone. When we give ourselves an event to look forward to, our minds are engaged in something other than our daily tasks and we get to live outside of the ordinary. The everyday tedium becomes lighter when celebrations are frequent and intentional.
Memories are Created through Celebration
By setting aside time to celebrate your spouse, you not only create something to look forward to, you forge memories. Fond memories build family identity and provide positive encouragement during times of trial. Memories are the building blocks that ground our families and make us into a cohesive unit. Get to building!
Here’s a memory: wherever I am, he shall be underfoot with the tiniest, most pain inducing when stepped upon toys in possession. *happy sigh* *tears of remembrance* *tears of stinging pain because it’s still happening* I’m just trying to make ice cream cake, child—can we move the party over 2 feet?
You’re Fostering Security in your Kids
When your children see you celebrating their mommy or daddy, they are not only encouraged to do the same, but they are able to rest securely in the stability of their family. We hear it frequently, but it remains nonetheless a stalwart in child-rearing: kids crave stability. Routine. Expectedness. Observing their parents appreciate and actively love one another builds secure and confident kids.
Mittens and no pants…that right there is the poster child for security.
An Atmosphere of Joy is Promoted
We tend to be drawn to people who exude joy. In the same way, families that are alight with joy are families that draw in and compel the world around them. Celebration promotes happy in the home and choosing to celebrate your spouse sets a precedent for everyone to follow suit and reap the bright shining benefit of joy.
Joyful are the ones who sit upon the toys, it’s said. That was what Oliver got out of our latest Bible story apparently…good thing I’m onto his squirreling ways.
An Opportunity for Fun Should Never be Forgone
Fun and play, regardless of the current atmosphere of your home, should always be taken full advantage of. Laughter is medicine and activity is rejuvenating. When we make an effort to celebrate amidst the everyday simple, we tap into an elixir of health for the family. Don’t miss out on these opportunities—vital to a healthy family, they are! 😉
Water play is fun, they said. It’s developmentally important, they claimed.
That’s why God gave us bathtubs people. Ok, so it was still fun even if there was probably water splashed clear into the living room.
Did I Mention Cake and Ice Cream?
CAKE AND ICE CREAM. Or brownies. Or rice krispie bars. Or cookies. Frosting, sprinkles, caramel, peanut butter, Oreos, butterscotch, cherries, strawberries, angel food, whipped cream, guys I’m drooling over here. Just make the cake already. Your taste buds will thank you. Alas, your waist-line will not, but that’s why God gave you legs. Take a walk or ride your bike, and then refresh yourself with a milkshake.
It’s a celebration, after all.
No matter where you’re at in your marriage or child-rearing years, making it a point to celebrate your spouse builds a beautiful legacy for your family. Note: adult children are not ignorant of or immune to the effects of stagnation in their parent’s marriage. They notice and they’ll be encouraged and challenged when they observe you fighting to keep joy alive and celebration a priority. It takes two to tango, but someone has to take the first step. Be brave, celebration pioneer!
Have fun. Appreciate the good things. Infuse your family with joy through celebration: everyone will be better for it.
Do you have special ways that you celebrate in your family? What are the greatest benefits you see from celebrating? Besides the cake, of course…
Have a great time celebrating this beautiful life, friends!